Do you remember playing a game in elementary school where all the students lined up and the teacher whispered something in the first person’s ear and it had to be passed down the line? The message would go down the line as we all smiled and giggled thinking how silly this all was. Most of the time the sentence had changed tremendously by the time the last person told it out loud.
I remember playing this game and we all thought how funny it was that the information changed like it did. That really isn’t funny when doing this in real life but a great lesson about how human’s listen and repeat information.
This is why gossiping can be such a devastating evil. I am guilty of it and every person is to some degree. It seems to come naturally to most people in conversation. When does it go from friendly fact conversation to just gossip is when you start to have problems. There is a fine line.
You have to really think about information that you have heard before you repeat it. You need to be sure what you are repeating is the truth and nothing but. I understand that “juicy” gossip is more fun to talk about but it can be hurtful to someone.
Try to know the facts of what you are talking about and please don’t take pleasure in someone else’s misfortune or mistake.
I heard a speech this week asking that we as adults and parents try to do this. Try to show our kids that it is part of being a good person to not gossip, take pleasure in others bad karma and just to be kind to each other no matter what the circumstances.
Those few minutes of words really hit home with me. I am going to try to do better. I would rather be known as a nice person than someone who hurts people’s feeling by talking “innocent gossip”.
I have grown up in this small town, I have seen the effects of what gossip can do. I have seen kids bullied, girls cry, boys fight and property damaged. That all happened almost 30 years ago and today’s kids have more ways to hurt one another.
Gossip is really just emotional bullying. Taking someone’s situation and blowing it out of proportion to make drama is not necessary. Basking in the wake of someone’s bad luck can be just pure evil that can slice a heart into a million pieces.
We all have bad times. We all have bad luck. We all make mistakes but we all know how to apologize and make amends. If we do that then there is nothing to talk about. People shouldn’t get so hyped up about what is going on in others personal business. We should all be able to hold our heads high and live to our full potential.
I tell Crawford all the time to be a nice person to everyone, no matter how the person looks, talks or sounds. He thinks I am nagging and I am in hopes that it somehow sinks through his skull into that brain of his.
He has been the subject of gossip back when he was held back in kindergarten. Some of the boys that went on to first grade would call attention to the fact that he was held back in front of other kids. It made him embarrassed and self-conscious. Some even made fun of him but I told Crawford to shake it off. In the long run he was going to be better off and it wouldn’t matter at all.
Now he is friends with the kids in his grade and the ones who advanced when he didn’t. His school life is fine again but I am sure that between now and graduation there will be other issues that he will have to deal with. But I will help guide him to stand up and do the right thing. I will try to be aware of my own actions as well. Kids learn better by watching than by listening, ever heard monkey see, monkey do! I wish that we all could do that for ourselves and for our kids.